For most guys, the question of where to meet women is one that can cause a great deal of frustration. Sure, the most obvious answer is to go where the women are, but, as we all know, it isn’t as easy as that. There are a lot of things you need to consider and not all venues are the same. Well, the truth is that not all venues are for everyone. Some people do better in bars, and others do just fine in less stressful situations, such as online dating sites.
Here are 10 of the best spots to meet women. If you’ve been struggling, this could open your eyes to a whole new world.
1. Club/Bar – I listed this first because it just automatically seems to be the default solution when a guy is looking for romance. It is the first thing that comes to mind even if the guy is completely inept when it comes to operating in this arena. It is also likely the first thing that your friends are going to suggest in an effort to help you out.
Let me just say that not all guys are going to be successful here. Just because there are single women available doesn’t mean that you have a chance with any of them. You need to be extremely outgoing and confident to even have a shot. You are going to have to be able to strike up a conversation with a woman and make it interesting enough to hold her attention and hopefully ask for her number.
The only problem is that, whether you realize it or not, you have just thrown yourself into the most competitive environment that you could possibly imagine. It is an area where only the smoothest talking, best looking, thickest skinned contestants will have a chance. Of course, there is the possibility that you won’t have to approach her and she is going to come to you, but… nah, not in this lifetime.
A final word about meeting women in bars… Well, two things, really. First, are you sure that you actually want to start a relationship with someone you met in a bar? Some of these people are there every week. Secondly, you are competing with professionals that have made picking up women their life’s work. It is hard to compete against that, especially if you are on some other guy’s turf – in other words, he is a regular and seems to know everyone.
2. Online Dating Sites – Never, in the history of dating, has there ever been such a great opportunity to meet the girl of your dreams. Stop wondering about where to meet women and register for an account (you may even find one that is free) – you won’t regret it. Not only are you likely to meet someone with whom you share a lot in common, but she is also likely to be a little more down to earth (compared to someone you met in a bar).
There are many positives to online dating, but one of the biggest is the fact that you have so many people to pick from. In many ways, it is a numbers game and the players can afford to be a little choosy. You also get to find out a little about them before you “approach” – try doing that in a bar.
Now, the fact that there are 1000’s of profiles on the site can be a negative also. You are competing with tons of other guys and if your profile isn’t up to scratch, you can be left in the dust. In order to stand out, you should, at a minimum, make sure that you post your picture and a detailed description. Don’t lie, you’ll be found out eventually. Did you know that most profiles without a picture get passed by?
3. In Public – Coming up to a stranger in public and starting a conversation is not for everyone, but the fact remains that this is an effective method to meet women if you do it right. You have to have an outgoing personality and be willing to be rejected at times.
This is a better way to meet genuine women – as opposed to a bar where you are likely meeting a “regular.” There is also the advantage of being able to ease into the situation. In a bar, you are under pressure because you are approaching women for one reason only – for possible romance. If you are rejected, it can be a huge blow to the ego. In public (say a bus stop or grocery store line-up) you can simply start a conversation with a woman without any ulterior motive. You are just being friendly. If you are a good conversationalist, things could progress from there. For many guys, this takes the pressure off (especially if they are a little timid to start with). If she doesn’t want to talk, it could be for a number of reasons, none of which have to do with the fact that she finds you unappealing.
Striking up a conversation is relatively painless. Even the most introverted can make an effort to comment on the weather in the checkout line or about the sorry state of public transportation while waiting for a city bus. The key here is to be able to read people. You have to read them and respond appropriately. Bust out of your shell and take a chance the next time you are standing next to the good looking woman you meet at the bus stop every morning. You have to start somewhere.
4. At Social Events – If you are a little on the reserved side and you prefer to stay at home as opposed to attending every social event that you are invited to, then make a pledge to change that. The more exposure you get, the greater your chances of meeting that special someone. Don’t set out with the sole purpose of meeting someone and living happily ever after, simply go with the intent that you are going to have a good time, no matter what happens. And don’t forget to mingle, mingle, mingle.
The good thing about parties and get-togethers is that it is a perfect way to be introduced to others by people you already know. You aren’t starting from scratch because there will already be a level of trust established – in other words, you aren’t a stranger. For a single guy, such events are pure gold that you really can’t afford to pass up.
5. Take a Class – One of the best ways to get to know a woman and build a rapport is to see her several times over a long period. That is why taking a class in something you enjoy is ideal. You get to know people slowly and you already know you have at least one thing in common. Trust and familiarity is built as the course progresses. This is perfect for any guy who is uncomfortable approaching women and trying to make a connection within a few minutes. In fact, this would work for even the shyest guys out there.
Check out your local community college and see what night classes they offer. You could also have a look through your local paper and see what is being offered. To increase your odds, try signing up for something that is likely to have a higher ratio of women to men. That is not to say that you have to take up crocheting or anything like that, but if you were to sign up for a cooking class or business class, you might stand a better chance than something like welding or automotive.
6. At Work – You are going to have to tread very carefully here, but if you do it right, working with someone is the perfect way to get to know them over time. Work romances are more common than you might think – after all, when you put people together for 8 hours a day, they are bound to become closer on many levels.
A word of warning: Sexual harassment is something that companies take very seriously and it could mean your job if you aren’t careful. You have to be absolutely sure that the feeling is mutual. Take things very slow and make sure that she is on the same page as you are.
7. Friends and Family – One of the best ways to get to know someone is to be introduced by friends and family. You can’t beat the fact that you will have instant credibility if your friend or family member “vouches” for you. Many couples are introduced in this manner – and years ago, it was one of the few ways that a you could actually meet someone.
Increase your odds by making sure that you keep up your social life. Go out with friends often and you may be surprised at how fate has a way of changing your life. When you least expect it, you could be introduced to the woman of your dreams.
8. Go to the Gym – Not only are you going to get in shape and look better for the love of your life, you may actually meet her there to boot. And that is not even mentioning the obvious health benefits you are going to enjoy.
The nice thing about this kind of environment is that you are going to see the same people there all the time and it is a perfect way to slowly develop a rapport with a woman you are interested in. Take your time and establish a nice relationship – you have all the time in the world.
The only downside to this is that it may be easy for some of the more fit guys to make you look bad. However, there is a lot more to life than showing off your muscles. If she is worth getting to know, then she won’t care if you are a newbie or a seasoned gym rat. Let your personality shine through, because that is infinitely more important.
9. Become a Volunteer – Though signing up to be a volunteer for the sole purpose of picking up women is a little slimy, there is no disputing the fact that it is a great way to meet people. Nothing says that you can’t volunteer for your favorite cause and let fate handle the rest. In other words, don’t go into it for the wrong reasons. Volunteer because you really want to help others.
If you do this with no expectations, you may find that you are going to meet real people. By that, I mean women who are doing this for the good of the charity. When it comes down to it, that is the kind of woman you want to meet anyway – someone who is kind, giving, and has values.
10. At School – For most students, having a large social network of friends and acquaintances is just something that happens naturally. Later on, all that seems to fade as real life takes over. But, if you are a student, or plan to be one soon, the opportunity to meet quality women is incredible. As long as you are sociable, you have an excellent chance of meeting someone of substance.
As mentioned, the classroom is a great way to get to know people over time (and a godsend for anyone wondering where to meet women), but you can also make it a point to take part in school activities and events (including the infamous pub nights and pub crawls). Take advantage of this now, because you are going to miss it later on in life.
So, there you are. If you are wondering where to meet women, there are 10 ways to get started.
Just remember that the more you are out there, the better your chances are going to be.
Now that you know where to meet women, one thing you may find interesting is that confidence, conversation skills and a winning personality are only going to help you once you are actually talking to a beautiful woman – after you make that initial contact. Until that happens, you are going to have to create some initial attraction. Sure, it is possible to come up to a good looking woman and strike up a conversation, even if she feels no initial attraction toward you, but you really do have your work cut out for you. If you are very good, your personality is going to shine through very fast – hopefully fast enough to change the perception she has of you.
But what if she was already immensely attracted to you? What if she had been giving you flirtatious glances all night from across the room? Do you think that it would make things a little easier? You bet it would!
And that is where physical attraction comes into play. Anyone who believes that a winning personality can compensate for real attraction in the very beginning is being a little short-sighted. You need every advantage you can get and being physically attractive is going to do more for you than just about anything, initially.
One of the best ways to increase your attractiveness is to get fit. However, contrary to popular belief, most women do not find excessive muscles attractive. And most guys mistakenly believe that all you have to do is pack on muscle. Look at some of Hollywood’s leading men and you will see that, although they would never win a competitive body building competition, they have the kind of bodies that women drool over. Another example is the Chippendale dancers. They are able to turn otherwise normal, reserved, level-headed women into sex-crazed animals without much trouble. And the kicker? Take a look at some of these guys – some are just ordinary looking guys with irresistible bodies.
And no, you don’t have to go around half naked to get their attention. When you are in this kind of shape, you are going to look good, even with all your clothes on. In fact, your clothes are going to fit like never before.
Okay, so what does all that mean?
Well, there is a right way and a wrong way to pack on muscle. If you do it wrong, you are never going to get that celebrity type body that is in high demand. There are many body builders that fail to attract women, even though they are ripping with muscle.
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