Much of the advice you get these days on how to save your marriage is solid, but it takes time to implement and see results. Such things as changing your behavior, opening the lines of communication, and treating each other with more respect often take time before you see any results. Here are 5 things you can do right now that will kick-start your efforts and hopefully allow you to see results in less time.
1. Work on your obvious issues. While you may be trying to become a better person on a whole and trying to change many aspects of your personality, you can start changing some of the more obvious personality quarks right now. Are you bossy and domineering? Do you have some really annoying habits that would drive anyone around the bend? Be honest, and make it a point to address some of these issues. Chances are, your spouse is going to see a change in you almost immediately, and this can ease the tension of an already volatile situation.
2. Make it a point to become less confrontational. Not that you have to give in to everything your spouse says and does, but you can make a conscious effort to become a little more accommodating – even if it’s something that you may not initially agree with. Quite often, this is all it takes to ease their mind and not make them so defensive. In fact, don’t be surprised if they suddenly become more accommodating towards you. You get what you give, is the lesson here.
3. If you don’t spend any quality time together, you may be unintentionally making things more difficult. Couples need this and if you aren’t making time for each other, then your relationship is going to suffer. This is something you can do right now. Make a reservation at your favorite restaurant and surprise your spouse with a night out, plan a picnic this week – just the two of you, cook his/her favorite meal and have an intimate dinner at home – There are many things you can do right now to up the intimacy level in your relationship.
4. Exercise patience. If you are able to do this, your spouse is going to notice very quickly. Don’t expect that things are going to change right this second, but trust in the fact that every effort you make is going to pay off in the future. Being impatient only leads to disagreements and more animosity in the relationship. Actually, you may not even be aware of the fact that you being impatient with your spouse. Anyone can start doing this right now, today.
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