It’s natural to want to put your best foot forward when it comes to meeting potential dates. We are all guilty of hiding certain negative aspects of our personalities while making sure that our positive attributes don’t go unnoticed.
You could say that each of us has our “dating face” on when meeting people for the first time. In some cases, one might even develop an alter ego when out in the dating world. After all, who can blame anyone for wanting to impress someone they hope to see again?
For the most part, there is no harm done by holding back some less desirable information about yourself just until you get to know the person a little better. However, when it comes to outright lying and deceiving, you might want to think twice about what you’re doing.
Holding back a significant amount of information about yourself can come back to bite you down the road. This is where you need to be able to tell the difference between trying to impress someone and lying to gain someone’s affection or admiration.
Telling your date that you are an heir to a billion-dollar fortune may work the first time, but it’s inevitable that you’ll have to come clean if you intend to pursue the relationship any further. Who needs that kind of stress and embarrassment?
Keep in mind that being yourself is not necessarily a bad thing. Sure, there may be people who are unimpressed with your personality or lifestyle, but at least you won’t have to think up an excuse as to why you lied to them in the first place. Being real has its own rewards.That’s not to say that you shouldn’t try to be on your best behavior and try to impress your date when possible, it’s just that you should try to be more realistic and don’t dig yourself a hole from which you may never escape.
It’s a fact that the world is made up of all kinds of people. While one person may not be impressed or feel attraction towards you, the next person might fall in love at first sight. By masking your personality, you are preventing people from seeing the real you. In the long run, it’s not going to buy you much.