When thinking of activities that you can do with your boyfriend, make sure it’s something that he is going to be interested in too. One of the best ways to find out what he likes and doesn’t like is by asking him certain questions in the beginning of the relationship. While it may look like you are just making conversation, you will be compiling a little information about him that you can use to your advantage later on.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to assume that he is going to like everything you do. What you have to realize is that, not only are you different people, you are also different genders.
And that is where compromise comes into play. If you want things to work out, you may have to give and take. You may have to tolerate the odd action flick instead of a romantic comedy. You may have to attend a football game instead of planning a picnic in the park. Knowing what he likes and then sharing your time so that he gets to do some of the stuff he likes is a great way to show him that you care enough about the relationship to make compromises like that.
Keep in mind that this is a two-way street. You don’t want to get to the point where all you do is what he wants to do.
If he cares about you, he’ll see the effort and sacrifice you are making.
One of the biggest advantages of knowing what he likes is that you can be spontaneous and surprise him every now and then by getting tickets to his favorite sporting event, or taking him to see his favorite band in concert. This is going to buy you a lot in the relationship and there is no doubt that he is going to remember to do something special for you at some point.
While going out of your way and making sacrifices is a great gesture, there is nothing to say that you can’t enjoy your activities and his in the same time frame. For example, if you love basking in the sun on the beach, perhaps you can combine his love for volleyball by alternating your sun-bathing with a few games of volleyball. If he enjoys golf, promise to accompany him for 9 rounds as long as he goes antiquing with you the following morning. It is all about compromise.
As far as activities go, there is nothing that says that you have to do things together 100% of the time. In fact, it is healthy to have your own interests and perhaps a group of people that you can go out with and enjoy things you really like. Set some time aside so that you can go to your bridge game, while he gets to play poker with the guys – that makes for a healthy relationship.
Few relationships last unless both parties are willing to make an effort and compromise. However, making sacrifices like that doesn’t mean that you have to be miserable in the process. Give and take is what it’s all about.