If you are new to the online dating game, you might be surprised to discover that only 10 percent of people ever receive a response to their profile. Keep in mind that these are completely unsolicited responses from members that have read your stats. Obviously, this doesn’t take into account people that you have initiated contact with.
Actually, 10% is on the high side. There are many profiles that simply sit there and never get a response. Generally, this is due to a poor profile, but not always. The dating site you choose could also have a huge impact on your success.
In the online dating world, you basically have two choices: To pay, or not.
Most people start their online dating experience with a free service. After all, what have you got to lose by whipping up a profile and getting your message to the world using the resources of a free dating site? Well, actually, that depends on where you go.
There are countless free dating sites on the internet. Most of these services are free for a reason: They are just starting out and they need members. It’s really a catch 22 situation. They have a limited number of members so people are less likely to sign up. If no one signs up, they cannot attract new members…and so on.
One of the first things you need to do before signing up to a free dating site is to browse the membership and check out the features the site offers. Just because a site is new doesn’t mean that they are not delivering quality. However, be aware that some of the profiles could be fake. Some unscrupulous webmasters try to start their dating sites with fake profiles to get the ball rolling. If you notice a lot of profiles without photos, fake looking photos, or that otherwise seem incomplete, chances are, they are not real.
Don’t get too hung up on sheer numbers here. You don’t always need tens of thousands of profiles to choose from. Remember, the more members, the more competition. You could do just as well, or better, by using a small site.
The fact that these sites are free is a good incentive to sign up. However, there are also certain problems that could make your online dating experience less than memorable. One of the biggest problems is that these free sites don’t screen their members. Usually, the only thing that’s required is an email address (and that’s easy enough to fake).
Why should you care? Well, this level of anonymity opens the door for all kinds of characters. When people can hide behind a fake profile, they can engage in all sorts of anti-social behavior. Now, it’s not entirely a free for all; any responsible administrator will quickly delete and ban a member that gets any serious complaints – but not always.
Free sites also tend to harbor all kinds of con artists, scammers and spammers. They will usually lie low for a while, posing as another member, then let loose a torrent of unsolicited messages to every member of the site – This happens a lot.
If you plan on using a free online dating service, make sure you do your homework first. If you are concerned about the site’s credibility, there are a few free services that have a large membership (in the tens of thousands). Chances are, they run a tight ship with that many members.
Of course, the best choice you can make is to sign up for a paid membership. There are many reasons for this:
* Paid sites usually have a lot of quality profiles.
* The members are more serious about finding a partner.
* Paid sites react quickly to member’s requests and complaints.
* Because they usually require a credit card to sign up, there is accountability, and members are forced to behave themselves. For your own safety and piece of mind, it’s reassuring to know that the person you are communicating with is real.
* You likely won’t receive any spam in your in-box.
Whether you choose a free or paid service, online dating is certainly something that you should look into – just the convenience factor alone puts it miles ahead of anything else you can think of. Remember though, it takes a little patience and determination to finally see favorable results.
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