Are you having a hard time getting women to notice you?
Well, if it’s any consolation, you’re not alone. In fact, the majority of men don’t have a clue about what it takes to attract the opposite sex. Without any experience or guidance, most guys simply wing it – usually with disastrous results.
If your dating life is non-existent, it’s probably because you aren’t able to attract the type of woman you want in the first place. The good news is that it’s never too late to develop that magnetic personality. Anyone can do this, even if you have never had success in the past and women completely ignore you . All it takes is a little determination.
Here are 10 tips to get you started:
Take stock of what you really have to offer a woman. Try to put yourself in her shoes – what are you bringing to the table? If you can’t answer that question with certainty, it might be time to do a little self improvement in other areas of your life. Go after that promotion you’ve always wanted, start taking night classes to finish your degree, or start hitting the gym to get rid of that “dough-boy” look you’ve got going.
Work on your conversation skills. The way you converse with other people immediately tells them what you’re all about. Do you appear shy and hesitant, nervous, or timid? Perhaps you are the exact opposite. Do you dominate the conversation and drone on about things that only you are interested in? Do you have a tendency to bore people? Unfortunately, these are not desirable traits when you’re trying to attract a woman. Watch people that appear to effortlessly mingle with others – and take notes. Above all, make sure you practice your conversation skills whenever possible – practice really does make perfect!
Improve your physical appearance. While we all can’t be born with rugged good looks, anyone can build on what they have. If you haven’t got a clue about how to dress to attract, get the advice of someone you know – preferably a woman. Go on a diet and exercise to lose any excess weight. Make sure your personal hygiene and grooming are impeccable.
Don’t appear needy or clingy. If you appear to be too keen, you could come off as looking desperate. You must avoid this at all costs. Though you might be tempted to let her know that you are very interested, it could backfire – especially if she doesn’t know you very well.
Make sure you mingle with other people if you’re at a social gathering. This lets her know that you do, actually, have a life and that you’re not the type to smother a person. By doing this, you are showing her that you are a well-adjusted, confident guy.
Avoid coming on too strong. Keep the sexual innuendos and references to a minimum. What you don’t realize is that she already knows you like her. You just need to tone it down a bit.
When you’re talking to her, treat the conversation like any other. Pretend you’re talking to a friend, and nothing more. Be sure to keep the talk interesting, however; and leave her wanting more. One big mistake that guys make is that they will try too hard to be funny and likable – just be yourself.
Try to exude confidence and self-assuredness. This is probably the number one trait in terms of desirability that women look for in a man. Unfortunately, most of us are sadly lacking in this department. Confidence is something that we can all learn. There are many excellent books written on this subject. Make it a point to start building your confidence and, most importantly, get some real-world experience. If you can manage to do this, it could be the single most important thing you do to increase your desirability.
Make sure you remember to smile and make eye contact. Unfortunately, it can be very difficult to smile when you are feeling anxious. In fact, you might not even be aware that you are sending out “keep away” vibes with your serious facial expressions. With that being said, make sure you don’t overdo it. You don’t want to come off as goofy. A nice friendly smile and a bit of eye contact will do it.
Remember that attraction is a two-way street. Yes, you might be infatuated with her, but she needs to feel the same way. If not, you are making the situation awkward for both of you. Learn to take a hint.
So, where do you start?
Take note of some of the points above, how they relate to you, and then get to work on improving your short-comings. Though this may take time, it is certainly worth the effort.
OR you could use the controversial methods taught in the video below to attract and date women. This is leading edge stuff from guru Josh Pellicer.
Warning – the video uses course langauge
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