There are lots of articles on the internet about saving relationships. Unfortunately, not very many of them provide a good plan for addressing the root issues and finding solutions for those problems. If you know how to start the process, and how to proceed, your chances of staying together with your loved one will increase.
The first thing you have to do when trying to save a relationship is figure out what you want. Do you need more emotional intimacy? What about physical intimacy? Do you wish you and your partner did more things together? Do you just wish you could go back to the days when your love and respect each for each other was fresh and vibrant? Figure out what it is you want from the relationship, only then can you put a plan of action in motion.
It’s probably a safe assumption that when your relationship started things were great. You eagerly awaited each chance to be with each other, spent hours talking, and found ways to work out your disagreements without anybody getting upset, or any hurt feelings. Try to think back on the relationship and try and figure out when things started to take a turn for the worse. Try to do this with your partner. You might be having a hard time figuring out what it was that drove a wedge between you, but they might have a very precise idea of what started the conflicts.
If you want to save a relationship, you’re going to have to compromise. What you need to compromise on will obviously depend on what issue it is that’s troubling you and your partner, but the only way to affect lasting positive change is if changes are made. These compromises can’t be made by one partner. Compromise is something that both halves of the relationship will need to do. Sit down with your partner and pick a problem. Between the two of you, attempt to formulate a solution for that problem. It’s important to listen and be constructive when trying to hammer a compromise out, so make sure you start with an open mind. Be realistic, sometimes a person will have habits that they just can’t break. You have to decide if such small annoyances are something you can overlook, or enough to end the relationship over.
Make sure to spend time with each other. The longer a relationship lasts, the easier it is for partners to grow distant from each other. If you want to keep your relationship healthy, set aside some “us” time for the two of you. You may not be able to spring for a cruise or a week long Cancun getaway, but planning a movie night or a night out dancing once a week is certainly within reach. When you have these “date nights” don’t let yourself get distracted by work, or money, or what the kids did or did not do at school. Focus on each other, make plans together, dream together. This is how to save a relationship.
A few tips and tricks on how to save a relationship are useless without a plan of attack. These simple steps are the core of a planned strategy for saving a relationship. If you want a more detailed, or personalized, explanation on how to save a relationship, seek the assistance of a professional.
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